The Guest Post

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This is a guest post, written by B. Alter Ego, also known as the “other” Brian. Please don’t hold anything I say against him. These are my opinions, not his.

A month and a half ago, Brian redefined his website and claimed that he was going to start getting personal. Since then I’ve only seen two posts written by him, but I know that he’s a busy guy so I understand.

Here’s the thing — we all have dreams and aspirations for making things happen, but for whatever reason most of us fall short. We claim that time is the barrier to achieving our goals, but deep down we know that’s really not true.

The Real Brian Gardner

I know Brian, quite well, and can assure you that’s not the case. While he’s Chief Product Officer and has a lot of responsibilities over at Copyblogger Media, I know he’s more than capable of balancing work and play.

You see, many of you don’t know this about him — but he’s online every night listening to music and surfing the web looking for things of interest. Ultimately what he’s doing late at night is searching for significance. I mean, aren’t we all?

In his case, night time is when he’s at his most contemplative state. After a long day of managing people, developing themes and writing docs, he looks for ways to be affirmed for his efforts, and simply to be accepted.

Not for his technical efforts, but because he’s a real guy with real problems.

The Social Media Monster

Enter that mean, overwhelming being called social media, and he finds it extremely difficult to be transparent. He fears that many of you will laugh at what he thinks, the music he listens to or the things that he enjoys doing.

Fortunately, he allowed me to guest post on his blog so that I can break the ice.

And break the ice I will.

Together he and I will be working on rearranging the content of his blog so that he can focus on writing the things that I know deep in his heart he wants to write about.

Breaking the Ice

Most of us know what idiosyncrasies are, but for those of you who don’t:

An idiosyncrasy is an unusual feature of a person (though there are also other uses, see below). It also means odd habit. The term is often used to express eccentricity or peculiarity

Everyone has them. It’s that simple. But, most of us are unwilling to embrace them, or more importantly will do whatever we can to hide them from others.

Most of us will shield the general public from our guilty pleasures, as we fear that our friends and co-workers will LOL or *snort* at the thought of knowing the “real” us.

You all know that Brian drinks Starbucks, runs and loves the mountains — but there are many things that you don’t know about him. Some of them you may wish you didn’t know, but hey — this is all part of a fun project he and I are working on.

Did You Know That…

Ok, let’s get some of the more obvious ones out of the way.

Yes, he’s a huge Sarah McLachlan fan. Yes, one of his favorite movies is the Notebook. And yes, he loves the Twilight movies. Does this mean, as a guy, he’s weird?

Absolutely not. It means that he’s a romantic at heart. And through me, he’s able to admit that he is — which is something that I bet most guys (who are) don’t want you to know.

Macho stuff, I guess.

But what you don’t know is that he’s often quirky, and to put it simple — quite weird. I bet you didn’t know that he keeps his wallet in his front right pocket.

Or that he pees sitting down. (OMG. Tweet this.)

The bald head? Oh yeah, that happened when he had a few too many to drink back in college, lost a bet and shaved his head. And he’s been doing it ever since.

Expecting the Mass Unsubscribing

All experiments have their costs. So if this post is too over the top for you, unsubscribe now. Just do it, as things will only get worse. There’s a lot more of this coming.

At his core, Brian is no different than any of us. He wants to be heard, but he’s afraid to speak. Thankfully I convinced him to kickstart the transformation by writing this post.

He wants to stop being fake, and start being real. He doesn’t want his persona or the way he’s perceived on social media to get in the way of saying the things that should be said.

Think Dooce.

I’ve known him for nearly 40 years, and he’s one heckuva guy. I bet you’ll think so to, when he takes of the mask and lets you see who he really is.

A normal guy. With a blog.